My mate was raped at xmas by someone she knew he was sixteen and forced her into she hasnt told an adult cos he said if she deos he will get her. I am worried about her what can i do to help her?

hi am 13 and my friend was raped at christmas by a guy she knew she has not told an adult because the guy said if she did then he would get her, the guy is 16 and she is only 12 she is quite mature but she is really scared and she saw him i town and she was sick. I dont know what to do, can you help me? i want the best for my friend.
- Scarlett, England

Hi, I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me or not? How do I find out or how do I approach about his feelings? Please suggest me.
- Binita, USA.

Hey! Binita, having butterflies in your stomach! Going through he likes me, he likes me not trauma? Express yourselves rather than being in a confused state. Confess your feelings to him. Without expressing, you can't find out the reality. If you are afraid to say yourselves then send him a card or a letter than will work out. If anything else bothers you then write to us.

Do what you want. Life is all about decisions you make when you have choices. Lucky Girl! You have 3 to choose. Wait a while to see how long the list goes and may be you can have better choices. But wait no longer; in that case you may lose one for you. Good luck!

My relationship wit thiz guy iz so deep tht i dnt think i can eva giv up on him. i would like 2 spend the rest of my life wit him 4EVA. everything seemz to b okay xcept 4 tht ma dad iz so strict. he wantz me 2 focus on ma education- do the degrees n thingz like tht. im only in college n im 19. hez 22 n has a career. im scared 2 tell ma dad abt my more than a year long relationship.... wat shud i do?? how could i convince him 2 accept uz?? plz...help...
- gori kt

This is what every girl has to go through. Put yourself in your father's shoe and then decide what you would prefer to do. Your father is doing what he should do. You have a love life and you are playing a lover girl. But darling! Don't forget that you are a daughter before and you have obligations to this part. Get on with your love life and education. Have time management. You are not into an age to think about marriage so soon. Get the degrees as your father suggests, till then your guy will have enough bank balance to take care of you and you both will be eligible to live life in harmony. Your guy will definitely show his assent if he loves you as you say. Right now, have patience and wait...

For your girl friend to come with you, its necessary to get a marriage certificate if you go in accordance with our customs. But, as you say you are studying abroad, your girl friend should also be busy with her studies. In this case, the family will not be ready to let you people do this marriage thing. Yeah, she can be there for her studies but there are procedures, which have to be followed, which again is impossible without her family's backhand. When you left abroad for the studies you must have assumed this will happen. Carry on that strong will and remember that you can get everything but it needs time...

Note: Bribery is a crime and we would not allow you to commit that. Without your offer also we would give our suggestions/opinions to you because we are here for it. Anyways if you do what you suggested we would appreciate that very much!!!

Rozy dear, you know all the answers to your questions. That's amazing and good. You are self-cautious about the things happening to you. This guy whom you have fallen for is not meant for you. Forget him, you'll suffer if you long for him. To make yourself not to think about him concentrate on your hobby or something that interests you. For example you can go serious with your studies. HELP YOURSELF!

Hey, Raj! There's no problem at all in your case. According to your information, you are a working guy and the girl also has an inclination towards you. Then where's the problem? Tell her that you love her and in near future you are willing to marry her. Tell her that you need her because you love her not you love her because you need her. And yes, do say it with Rose in your hand.

Distant relationship often goes through communication problem. May be Your guy is acting in two basic reasons:-
1) He doesn't have enough time to reply your mails or call you.
2) Sorry to say but it might be that he has lost interest on you.
To find out what exactly the case is, write how you are going through and ask him to reply back. If he still doesn't response your feeling then, you can discontinue the relationship. Hurt yourself once than hurting for rest of the day. Remember that TIME IS A HEALER. Yet wait what he has to say and you'll know what to do next. Have Patience.

Don't get troubled. Leave two of them together and move ahead.

You Confused guy...When it comes to relationship I know that age has no bar. But you alone can't make or workout the relationship. You should know how she feels for you...The only way out for you is to find out what she has to say about you. Study her behavior for a while and if there's any indication about her liking then you go ahead and hit the BULLSEYE. If no such hints are available then do not bring your friendship in trouble.

You good son, I will have to say listen to your heart and act. If your heart says you love this girl in spite of your mom's disagreement then go for it. Remember that your mom was there when you were child. No doubt she was there when ever you needed. But in the future, you got to have a wife with whom you got to spend the rest of your life. So whether you want to hold up the past or think about the future is up to you. Convincing your mom is hard but with help of your girl friend that would be much easier. Actually the test is on her than on you. Anyways you people have enough time to get serious about your relationship. Let me know about the way this girl's feelings so that I can help you further.

THE MAGIC OF HAVING GOOD FRIENDS IS BEING ONE. Don't burry your feeling or thought. I would recommend you to start writing a diary where you write everything that is in your heart. That will help you a lot. You can also join club where you can be volunteer. Go help the people in need, support the needy. Remember, making friends is easy but to keep up one is a real hard job. And no one can understand your feeling better than yourself. So get started on this process and don't worry honey!

If you think that the guy who has changed her girlfriend for you (in your case your sister) won't substitute you for other girl go ahead. You have your chance baby. Your decision will have two-way action, one on your own life and another between the relationships of you two sisters. Falling for this guy is not right.

You seem to be confused within yourself. You love your sister as well as your sister's boyfriend.

You did something that you should not have done. There is no use of crying over the split milk. You're mistake spoiled the 3 lives i.e.: Your Sister, The Guy and of course yours too. Now all you got to do is that you need to prove your sister that you still love her and mean no harm. To realize your mistake is half corrected. Actually I was surprise to read that the guy KISSED you knowing that you are his girl friend's sister. You may take it love but in my case I would doubt on him. If he truly loved your sister then he would not have done that. I think that you should talk this matter with your sister serious. Clear all the misunderstandings and doubts she has. Don't stay unspoken. And yes, don't flirt with heart

I don't understand what's wrong with boys these days...You say that you go out with someone and cross all the limits and get wrapped with problems. The disappointing factor is that you make someone pregnant and say in a C-O-O-O-O-L style that you don't love that person. If sexual satisfaction was the thing why play with others sentiments when you could have an easy way out. You could go to hawkers that are available--no trouble there. Sorry to show you that way but this is at least a better way than what you did. However, at this situation please let this girl have an abortion, if not marry her...but please don't make her life a living hell and a small note for all the youngsters like you---BEAWARE OF AIDS!!!

O K , my problem isn't anything big , but it still is a problem , and very hard to explain , so listne(read) and please help me . i have a girlfriend , for 2 months now . I loveher , and beleave me i know she loves me , we have a pasion for each other that is just incredible BUT here comes the problem . Just keep in mind im not saying this to make a big man out of my selfe , or brag , im just being realistic . My relasionship experience is on a much biger level then her's and now after two months we have came to a border to make a biger step and go further , but the problem is she is not ready to make that step , and it is the problem , because that step is expressing love to eachother , it seames like i love her more then she loves me and i can't live whit that . I know she loves me , but she can't express hor love to me like i do to her it's like i am on a far bigger level then she is . i love her very much , i can have other and better girls but i dont wanna because of reasons from my past that i can;t explain now , so i try to 'make' her love me like i love her , so that we culd make the next step . I tried explaining it to her the easy way - talking several times but she doesnt show that she is chagning , and yester day i told her everything very clear , and that i can't be the 'musle' of our relainsoship , adn that i ca;t put her frst in my 'do' list anymore if she doesn't do the same whit me . i knowi can be hard to her , stuff like making her jalous , blowing her off , im good at that , mybethen she would get scared not to lose me and just start expressing her love , but i;m sceard to hurt her , and i can't take it like this anymore , it's like being held back from acheaving my goals with her , just tell me what to do ?
help me as sooon as you can caulse time is passing , and i can feal my love for her just sliping away , help please , thanx in advance
- Philip , Serbia

I have been married to a Nepali man for about a year now. To this day his parents have not seen a picture of me or of our wedding. Why does my husband keep his family from me? I understand that our marriage is taboo...(and possibly this is the reason), but this should not keep me from introducing myself to my in-laws. If I could go about contacting them, what would be the proper way to do it?
Very Confused...
- c.c, USA.

First of all make it sure that you know all about your husband. Find out what kind of background he comes from. I hope this inquiry will answer most of your questions. It may be that he has some problems so he is keeping you away from his family. Just, find out what's going.

Hey Jon what you can do is gather information about this girl from someone who knows her or been with her for long time. Don't tell me you don't know someone of her contact. Try harder to get her E-mail Id. and once you have that you can carry on through mails. If she doesn't have E-mail Id. then quietly drop a note into her bag. How about dropping a card that says A Secret Admire. But I tell you, talk to her rather than hiding behind the curtain.

hello i am pramod i was married just one month well i am happy the married day ,when i finished married ,really i am warm love for her ..but she is always crying ... what i she crying i dony know .i tell her whats happend but she said me nothing .... but i am really worried for our realitionship ,please ,please. please tell me whats a better ideas ,,,.
- Pramod Dangol, Nepal

Your wife must be feeling odd. She has been married to you, which means she is away from her own family. She has to adjust herself to her new life, which isn't easy. Try to tell her that you are no stranger and ask her what can you do to console her. You have to be there for her, comfort her and she will be all right.

Since it has been only three weeks that you have fallen for this girl, there's no rush for marriage. My word, Slow Down. This will take time but get to know each other well. Till then she will be fit and fine. After that decide what you should opt for.

Tell me more briefly whether this girl knows you or not. You could be friends also which I don't know. When you write me with a problem give the details. I am no "antaryami" to figure out what the detail version of your problem is? So, write back with more details and then I can find out the solution for your problem.

Tell me how long has it been since you two are in this relationship and what's her age then I'll tell you what to do.

You have seen how this boy is behaving. It indicates that he doesn't give any damn to you or care. Now, hold on to your life, forget him. I know it hurts but there's no point in expecting a thing from him now. You remember the song "Bhul ja tu ushe" by Shaan, (if not hear it) all your answers are in there.

4. Dear Mr. Slovack, such things keep happening in the net and in real life. Take it easy. For you I would say "Learn to love others" cause that's the key to be loved back. BULLSEYE. If no such hints are available then do not bring your friendship in trouble.

So you have it what you want crazy gal. The guy knows what you wanted him to know. I see no problems, if you ask him for the party. Go and Enjoy!!!

Mr. Ranky with due honor and respect we would like to inform that our site consults with teenz problem. No body in here would be interested in your "so called" problem. Sorry! Can't help.

1. Dear Krisa, the best way to know whether someone likes you or not is to ask about it. Tell him the way you feel and find what he has to pour into. Don't tell me its kinda hard to do that coz' that's exactly what has to be done. Be a girl of today or it'll be late. In your case as you said you have chances and I'll say take it when it is available for you.